I’ve recently been asked about my thoughts on dating multiple people at once… I think it’s akin to sampling ice cream at Cold Stond Creamery.
Dating is fun, exciting, and amazing! You believe that?
It can be. But it can also be stressful. With a generation of ghosters (I’m guilty of it, too, unfortunately), it’s difficult to judge a person. I tend to keep myself guarded so that when they ghost me it doesn’t hurt so bad.
Let’s get one thing straight right away, though- just because I’m dating you doesn’t mean I’m in a relationship with you. There is no exclusivity. There is no “in a relationship with” status on Facebook. We are just going on dates, figuring out if we like each other, and hoping the other one doesn’t ghost us.
That said- can you date other people? Can I?
And here’s my random thought… an analogy, if you will, about dating and ice cream.
You go to Cold Stone Creamery. Most people sample a bunch of different flavors, and that’s perfectly fine! But at the end of the day, the goal is to pick a flavor to fill your “Like It”, “Love It”, or “Gotta Have It” container. No problem with sampling; Cold Stone just wants to make sure you actually buy something. It’s terrible to think that you’d sample all these flavors just to end up walking away without buying anything.
That’s your Meghan’s Musing of the week, folks. Don’t walk away from a bunch of possible relationships because you keep sampling the flavors. Give one of them a chance in a “like it”, “love it”, or “gotta have it”.
And on a completely unrelated note, I bought a ton of books recently. I have a book-buying problem… I guess I could have a worse problem: not having any flavors to sample at Cold Stone Creamery!
Also, a couple of great reads for you to check out:
Why Good People Ghost (such a good read that my friend shared it twice a week apart)
Love What Matters (embed link not behaving properly… will update later!) Click here to go straight to the Facebook post.
WordPress was having trouble with the embed. I’ll fix it as soon as I get home. If you can’t wait until then, though, be sure to head to Ms. Gilbert’s page to read the whole card. ?